Do they or don't they?  Can video games and movies affect the moods and or behavior of our kids?  
    Our five year old, Preston, has gotten into Star Wars, Teenaged Mutant Ninja Turtles and Power Rangers this year.  Our older two boys, ages nine and seven, never got "into" these shows, but for whatever reason, Preston became obsessed with them.  We really didn't have a problem with this.  My husband and I both LOVED Star Wars when we were kids, in fact.
    It wasn't until recently that we started to see a change in Preston, however.  It started with his light saber that he got for Christmas.  He would sit and watch his favorite Star Wars movie while holding onto it or put his light saber beside him as he played his Star Wars game on Xbox.  It was actually cute at first.
    Before we knew it though, he was chasing his little sister around the house waving his light saber around yelling, "I'm going to cut your head off and then your arms and legs!"    
    nice.
    It got worse as he watched the Power Rangers fight or the Ninja Turtles karate chop their way though an episode.  Preston started hitting and fighting all of us. 
    He and his little sister have always fought, but this was different.  He was showing aggression that we hadn't seen in any of the kids before.  
     We ended up taking his light saber, video game and movies away and only let him watch TV if it was "Little Bear", "Franklin" or "Mickey Mouse Clubhouse" because - well - he's five.
     It reminded me of a study that I learned about in a child psychology class called the "Bobo Doll Experiment".  In a nutshell, a number of kids were divided into three groups.  One watched a series of aggressive behavior towards a blow up punching bag type doll named "Bobo" while another group watched non-aggressive behavior towards the doll.  The third group was a control group with no exposure whatsoever.  
    The results indicated that the group of children who watched the doll being hit and kicked, repeated the behavior when placed in a room with their own Bobo doll.  
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hHHdovKHDNU
    This study can be argued on both sides...those who agree with it and those who don't. 
    All I can think though, is that millions if not billions of dollars are spent each year on advertising and commercials to get us to think one way or act another.  The same goes for the film and TV industries.  I know I feel very differently walking out of a chick flick or romantic comedy than I do when I watch one of my husband's favorite action packed movies with him.  There must be some influence in there somewhere...simply by what we're watching.
     I guess that the bottom line is, Preston is very young.  His little five year old mind is going to have more difficulty processing the fight scenes between Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader (as cool as they may be).  When he's a few years older, we'll see how it goes.  
     As for now, we're pulling things back old school and Mickey Mouse will be just fine.  We've actually seen a difference in his behavior and he's lost his aggressive demeanor. 
     We're not opposed to him running around the house with his light saber someday.  I guess we're just going to have to wait until he's old enough to understand and be able to handle the responsibilities of a Jedi Knight though.
     May the Force be with him.
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Shane
02/11/2013 6:47pm

I think they do make some difference. Even for myself, first episode of "the Walking Dead" I watched freaked me out, after a few episodes the zombies don't scare me as much. After season 1 all of my coworkers and family members turned into zombies to get me. Okay the last part isn't true but you do get desensitized to stuff.

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02/12/2013 12:24am

What a Great point Shane! I remember watching a horror movie when I was in Jr. High and couldn't sleep for two nights straight. There HAS to be something about watching movies, TV shows or playing video games that can get into our heads...and desensitization is a whole different fantastic point. Thank You for writing!

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02/12/2013 2:29pm

I definitely think there is a connection between what kids watch and how they act!
My daughter got to watch Popeye at her grandparents' house...several times. Every time she decided to try punching Grandpa afterwards. Let's just say she doesn't get to watch it anymore. (It wasn't me who turned it on to begin with...but the grandparents learned!)

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02/12/2013 7:37pm

Oh NO! Isn't that crazy?! It's pretty wild what their little minds will take away from what they see...and it never seems to be the spinach. : P

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02/13/2013 4:24pm

Let me just say that our B5 is one of the smartest kids I know for his age, and G10 is also on of the smartest kids I know for her age. (Gender age, example I am G37... don't tell!) And one thing I had noticed a few years ago was that the more they watched "SpongBob" The dumber they were getting. And not just that one show, there were a whole slew of stupid cartoons on and they watched them all at there Mom's. We don't allow SpongBob and the like, we do Disney. It is always appropriate and 90% safe to let them watch episodes of stuff without having to monitor every second for content. All of a sudden in the last almost two years that they have gotten away from that crap TV, they are smarter, healthier, more social, less aggressive, and much more well behaved. I don't want to toot my own horn here, but I know it's not all about the TV. But every two weeks the kids go with there bio-Mom (seriously they stay at there grams where it is safe and there mom is never there) but it takes till wednesday for them to be back to normal. And they tell us they sit and watch that Crap TV all weekend! And we can see that when they get home, they are different kids till like Wed morning when it starts to ware off. Any time our kids have any issues at school or with homework or there activities it is either Monday or Tuesday after a Mom weekend. So the fact that for the last two years we can track all bad or aggressive behavior back to Bad TV time. (Hint: these kids never get in trouble!! They bring home outstanding social responsibility awards all the time, it is for bully prevention, helping others, doing what is "right" etc.) They never get in trouble, it is sick, I was always in trouble growing up..... hummmm I was non monitored and could watch or play whatever I wanted.... go figure.

So I agree 100%. I think unfortunately cartoon content has gone real bad, and the gaming industry also. With that said, YES we buckled with Skylanders on that Xbox, but he and his Dad have discussed the difference and well Hubby was told... "Papa skylanders aren't real like the easter bunny and stuff so it is ok, us kids can't do that stuff. But apparently Killing Zombies with his uncle on PC on those Mom weekends is ok, cause real people need to kill Zombies to save the world from extinction. So no he won't try and pull any Skylander maneuvers in real life, and won't hurt animals because all that is fake and he shouldn't do it..... but if your a Zombie and show up at our house watch out because B5 knows all the best ways to kill ya!

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02/14/2013 3:12am

I Love it!!! I'll make sure to send all Zombies your way for B5 to take care of!
I have to agree with you on what you've said. I can't help but notice how the kids really do act more obnoxious than normal after watching certain shows. The aggression thing was new since our older two have never cared to watch the shows that Preston liked. All three of them went through a SpongeBob phase though. ugh. You really do have a point with that. There has to be something to the fact that we (I'm 39...I won't tell if you don't!) grew up WAITING for Saturday morning cartoons and that was IT! There was no DVR, there were no 24 hours of kid TV...just old school...Saturday morning. Other than that...we went outside and played.

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MamaJedi
02/17/2013 11:30am

First of all, I definitely agree with the idea that nobody knows your own kids like you do and you have to do what works for your family. I also agree that what you watch affects how the kids behave. Having said that you can also surmise by name that at my household we are Star Wars fanatics. Here is an idea that was passed on to us that has worked very well and may give you an option in between the all or nothing (or something to try when you are ready to try Star Wars again). We have a hard and fast, zero tolerance rule regarding weapons (toy, we do not have real ones in the house): you do not aim or use a weapon against someone not using one also. Breaking this rule results in an immediate loss of the weapon for remainder of the day. I have never had to take one away for a longer period of time because they got the point - you do not attack defenseless people! It doesn't matter if it is a light saber, nerf gun, lego created weapon, or sandwich eaten into the shape of a gun aimed at someone (somehow boys can turn anything into a weapon). Also an idea for light sabers - my husband made all of us our own light saber from pool noodles - they are much softer when dueling than the hard plastic ones. He personalized them by letting the kids choose their own color, and added switches (for looks) from the hardware store and details with electrical tape. He even made some for himself and me. The kids love it when daddy duels them with the light sabers.

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02/17/2013 12:10pm

MamaJedi, Number One: You totally rock. Number Two: I wish we lived by you guys because you seem like the Coolest family in the galaxy. I love your idea regarding the homemade light saber. We'll have to try those. Thank you for such a great idea and thank you for writing!

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